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Counselor Corner 1/21/2020

Counselor Corner:

Hello Parents!

Self-esteem can impact all aspects of your child’s life-how they learn, how they interact with others, how they problem solve, how they handle adversity, and how willing they are to try new things.  Here are some ways to help your child develop healthy self-esteem:

-Praise your child.  Notice when your child has done something well and tell them. 

-Validate feelings.  If your child gets a blow to their self-esteem, allow your child to feel sad, hurt, or mad. Afterwards, help boost them up with positives.

-Avoid harmful comparisons.  Do not compare your child to others.  Instead of saying, “Why can’t you be more like your sister?”  try, “Do you notice that your sister does this?”  Let your child know that it’s okay to be different, and that you don’t expect perfection.

-Give the gift of time.  Your child knows how busy you are, so when you find a few minutes to listen about their day or play a game with them, they will feel worthy and loved.  Even a few minutes will make a big impact.

-Criticize the behavior.  When your child misbehaves, talk about the behavior, such as, “What you did was hurtful, and I know you are a nice child.  How can you make this better?”  Do not label your child as ‘bad.’


Nicola Repetosky

School Counselor

School Counselor